Children and Young People

Children and young people are affected by domestic abuse too. If you are living in a home where adults and family members are hurting each other, constantly shouting, swearing, name calling or putting each other down, you are living with domestic abuse.

You may see or hear it or be directly involved in it and not feel safe in your own home.

Article 19

You have the right to be protected from being hurt and mistreated, in body or mind

(United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child)

You may also feel anxious for the safety and wellbeing of your family members, feel embarrassed to have friends home, or worried about what might happen to you if others find out.

It is quite likely that you will have trouble sleeping, be missing school or arriving late. This can affect how well you do at school and your friendships and happiness.

Abusive relationships happen outside the home too. You may be experiencing abuse within a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. This kind of behaviour is never acceptable, particularly within a close family, partnership or friendship. You do not have to put up with it.

It is important that you know where to go and who to talk to if this is happening to you. This could be another trusted adult,, perhaps a family member, teacher youth leader or friend. You could also use a helpline such as Childline (phone 0800 1111) to talk things through.

Just being able to talk to someone should be a relief and may help to solve the problem but if that person thinks you are at risk of being harmed, they will have to report this.

In the Refuge, there are people to support Mums, but children and young people also have their own support worker. Her job is to make sure you can continue with your schooling, make friends and have fun. She will listen to you and help you to express your feelings and to get any extra help that you may need. She will also help your Mum to understand how you might feel.

You may find these other websites helpful

Essex Safeguarding Children Board 

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