What is domestic abuse?
What does domestic abuse and violence cover?
Domestic abuse can be any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.
This might include being:
- prevented from seeing friends and family
- ignored or shouted at
- forced to ask for money
- made to have sex
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How does this kind of behaviour affect people?
Domestic violence often affects people in many different ways, some of them have told CTWR that they feel like they are:
- physically and emotionally helpless
- trapped with no way out
- violated by their abuser
- never able to get anything right
- invisible with no identity of their own
- responsible for the abuse
- on a knife’s edge all the time
- to blame for the abuse
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Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim. This definition includes so-called ‘honour’ based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage, and is clear that victims are not confined to one gender or ethnic group.